Learning new ways to express myself

Well here I am

I procrastinated over whether or not to start a blog as another form of self  expression, here I am giving this a shot for the experience and seeing where it goes, I needed a place to express my views and beliefs on life and also to help express parts of my deep thinking pen to

opaper is good but sharing it with the world can make a difference in the smallest way so here I go embarking on this new project of self expression 

#life #deepthinking #awareness #sharing

Advertisements

The world needs your story

THE WORLD NEEDS YOUR STORY

don’t fear sharing your story to inspire others Its what we don’t see that is quite often what is making the impact rather than what we do see.

We get so caught up in wanting the likes, shares and so on that we forget its the impact made that isn’t shown in the public forum that makes all the difference.

Not everyone your making an impact on for the better will show you in front of everyone their appreciation as their still working their way through the dark.

Don’t ever think for a moment your work is a waste because your yet to receive public recognition for it, just persist at it with courage, purpose and persistence and life will happen.

Overcompensating = insecurity

Do we over compensate with life because we are insecure in being who we truly are? YES!

Because we don’t believe in our own strengths and abilities just to be us and that those who admire our qualities will accept us for being us and not Something exaggerated or unnatural.

As I learned from my own experiencr that I was a massive over compensator as I always wanted to impress the girl or fit into the group that I failed to see my true self or live through the real me and when all this over compensation failed I wondered why I felt empty and unhappy.

You will never achieve anything in life through constant over compensation, except to live a life of fear, always conducting yourself in the most unnatural of ways and its unhealthy 

If you just be you without  over compensation you will

  • Live a happy and fruitful life
  • Be secure in who you are 
  • Develop your own inner strength
  • Have no fear of rejection or acceptance 

If you over compensate you will end up

  • Living in fear constantly
  • Be insecure
  • Never live a truly happy life
  • Never know your strengths and abilities to achieve great things

Its not healthy trust me, and alot of it when you dig below the surface into those uncomfortable areas of the human psyche, you will find It relates all back to our past experiences and we feel the need in the present to overcompensate as thats where we failed in past relationships and friendships when in fact all those ended friendships and relationships were a reflection of the other party and not actually you.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU SO DON’T OVER COMPENSATE AND COMPRISE YOUR TRUE SELF

STRENGTH AGAINST ALL ODDS: A STORY OF INSPIRATION

I have to share this story it’s about a person very close to me whom I believe has such phenomenal inner strength.

Back in 1994 she was rushed to hospital after an overseas trip, straight off the plane and into hospital with a mystery illness that doctors spent months trying to diagnose but to no avail she was discharged and put on medication.

Then in 1999 she relapsed with the same illness, this time they were able to diagnose it as auto immune deficiency syndrome, the immune system turned on her body sadly targeting her lungs and depleting them, one day she was rushed to intensive care, hooked up to all these tubes and machines, we were told she had 24hrs to live, all I did was pray and pray and sometimes cry a bit, after that 24 hours she was still alive, 48 hours still  alive, 72 hours Still alive and a week later she was responsive and she progressed from there, after all this it was found out that her lung capacity had been severely depleted due to the illness leaving her with only  less than 25% of breathing capacity in her lungs.

In the weeks leading up to her discharge she was told she would be on an oxygen tank for the rest of her life and her response was a swift but honest no, she left the hospital on discharge day with no oxygen tank or mask in tow, it was exciting to have her home, but there was a long road ahead of physio and other therapy/Check ups.

Its been 18 years later and this woman has survived against and defied all odds thrown at her to see her first grandchild born, to see her eldest son get married and soon to be witness to her youngest son getting married.

She’s gone from having 24hrs to live to now walking without need of an oxygen tank, driving a car, looking after her grandson, cooking meals and doing what you and I would do every  day.

If you want to see what defying all odds is meet my mum she is the strongest person I know to defy all medical beliefs and to fight back from her death bed 

I WILL TELL YOU NOW

NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE 

EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE

you may think your situation is bad Just remember someone’s is far worse and their fighting every day to.push through.

IF YOU WANT SUCCESS YOU MUST SURRENDER

As I’ve recently learned in life and still am that all the things we associate with negativity in life such as failure, defeat, surrender and so on are all success words.

As we all want success, we all want to make the money, we all want a better life for our families, we all want to be healthy but were not willing to surrender and sacrifice our current state and believe that change can happen or hand ourselves over to someone a higher power or trained professional to guide us.

If you want success in life you must surrender yourself and everything in your mind especially if you’ve tried other ways to attain that success and failed.

You need to surrender

  • Your ego
  • Your state of mind
  • Your current belief system
  • Your present physical state 
  • Your failures 

Surrendering isn’t a sign of weakness when soldiers surrender a battlefield it doesn’t mean their defeated it means they live to fight another day and this battle wasn’t theirs.

Here’s an example:

Saving private Ryan theres a scene where they ambush and commandeer a radio base they take a soldier hostage, they were about to kill this soldier but they release him, and in the final scenes of the movie he comes into combat with them again he doesnt fair so lucky though

 The message I’m conveying behind this is surrendering can mean victory the positive is you live to fight another day where if you keep fighting sometimes you lose the battle and die and give up there’s no victory in that.

Handling our business

Life is showing me some interesting things lately and damn it the universe is making sense.

All our behaviors are linked to how we handle them, each experience, each relationship, each failure everything keeps repeating itself until we wake upto it, face it and handle, look. It straight in the eye.

The more you runaway from everything in life the more its going to come back and keep presenting itself over and over and over in many different forms, we spend our whole lives living in fear, running from the fire rather than walking into it and extinguishing it.

A fireman doesnt run from a fire he faces it’s ferocity with courage and bravery giving it everything he has, calling in for help if he needs to  and extinguishing the fire that torments.

WHAT IS STOPPING YOU, ME OR ANYONE FROM FACING THE FIRE? 

NOTHING! ABSOLUTELY NOTHING BESIDES WHATS IN YOUR HEAD.

eventually your going to get tired of running from everything and surrender either one foot in the grave or to a higher power the universe, the Almighty or whatever it is you find belief and peace in too help you get through.

Stop running for god sakes face upto life take some ownership, take some courage, take some fearlessness and know by facing the fires life throws at you that peace will come and it will all be worth it.

But you must want to change you can’t do this half arsed like I’ve done sooo many times it has to come from deep within through reflection and tough questioning of what you are and what you wish to become and if you can find this then you have somewhere to start and all that matters is that you believe it before anyone else does in this world.

YOU MIGHT AS WELL BE THE WALKING DEAD 

We clutch onto the past like its the only thing we have to live for, I see more and more people clutching onto their past not living their true potential and it saddens me.

We are killing ourselves as we clutch to the past, we’re afraid of loving and being loved because of our past, we are afraid of the opposite sex because our past is scarred by them, we can’t trust anyone because our past has been fraught with lies and dishonesty.

We blame our past for what we can’t do now, we blame everything else besides holding ourselves accountable we look for excuses not live we much rather live blaming our past for what its done, the only person that owns you is you, your past is gone, dead buried!!! Its a graveyard of all your past, so why the hell would you want to raise the dead of your past everyday?

If your doing that you might as well be the walking dead all you need is a shovel over the head, stop killing your potential, your love and YOURSELF!!

The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.

Les brown

Do you want to live a life sentence in  graveyard and then be buried in one come days end or do you want to live out your true potential in every moment.

LET GO OF YOUR PAST 

LET GO OF THE INDIFFERENCES YOU HAVE WITH SOCIETY AND PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.