Learning new ways to express myself

Well here I am

I procrastinated over whether or not to start a blog as another form of self  expression, here I am giving this a shot for the experience and seeing where it goes, I needed a place to express my views and beliefs on life and also to help express parts of my deep thinking pen to

opaper is good but sharing it with the world can make a difference in the smallest way so here I go embarking on this new project of self expression 

#life #deepthinking #awareness #sharing

Moving on Or suppressing the past

I notice a trend of human behavior and the big one is our admittance to moving on what’s the difference between truthfully moving on and superficially moving on?

I believe its defined in the followings


the ability to accept what’s happened be it we have been hurt, in essence owning it is truthfully part of moving on as we have accepted that its happened we don’t find ways to stay connected to the event we actually find ways to disconnect emotionally mentally and even spiritually as we know its no longer even though it may crop up we don’t absorb we accept as a part of us so we are always able to move on we’ve dealt with it, confronted it and conquered it.


We find some way to keep ourselves emotionally connected to the experience, we put on a fake happiness in order to give the impression to the world we have in fact moved on and not clinging onto it we live off affirmations and quotes online, when in fact you know the real truth and its killing you but you continually suppress with empty relationships, parties, workaholic behaviour and so forth, but under all that you are still not moved on then one day it all comes falling down because like anything it has its cause and affect factor.

You cannot fear to confront and conquer your bad experiences be it relationships or work and so on because if you don’t it will damn right eat at you and you will live a life with your soul in suffering.

Trust me deal with it then you will be free as the only true path to liberation is confront and accept.
Peace love light


unfaithfulness and me

Something I want to admit and I’ve never done it openly if anything I’ve done it behind closed doors, not that it’s anyone’s business but I do believe for me this is a part of my healing its what’s shaped me to be the soul I am today.

I was once a troubled soul lost fearful, insecure and superficial, I did things that often lead me to hurt others I have since healed from the loneliness and fearing of it.

I am now peeling back one more layer of this coocoon that I have lived in.

During my marriage I wasn’t happy towards the end so I did some ridiculous things 

  1. I joined a swingers website and started cam chatting with other women, I got caught by my wife at the time but rather than admit it I played victim made excuses did anything I could besides take absolute responsibility for my actions and addressing it, I lived in denial even when it hurt her and put her in tears I still persisted on with the excuses to justify myself this went on for some time until our marriage split.

I often tried to justify what cheating was But to be honest there is no justification or label its just plain unfaithfulness as I recently came to understand

  1. Trust is a sacred bond and your actions can do damage
  2. If your unhappy change the situation be it separation or discuss with your partner
  3. Don’t hide anything be it your feelings your emotions or your insecurities as part of a relationship is to work through all this to build a stronger bond

You cannot fear honesty or being alone okay you have to talk unfaithfulness hurts and it can break an already damaged soul.

Being honest is the greatest act of integrity and humility 

Peace love light


Premature decision making

Often we try and project conclusions or outcomes through over thinking over analyzing playing scenarios out in our head eventually leading to our demise, I used to do it quite a lot hence the anxiety the pushing away of friendships and so forth, I and you need to learn to live presently and mindful and know change is inevitable and no amount of predicting or planning may never prepare us  for the outcome





Peace love light


The brain and us

Now I’m no psychologist or trained medical professional but have become really intrigued in how our brain works 

Did you know:

Our mind is the projector for our thoughts within our brain both brain and mind are two separate parts.

The one thing that has really caught my attention is neuroplasticity, what is it?

Neuroplasticity: The brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life.Neuroplasticity allows the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain to compensate for injury and disease and to adjust their activities in response to new situations or to changes in their environment.


Our brain is an amazing thing we can alter it both a negative and positive way hence there is both a negative and positive aspect to neuroplasticity.

If we practice something over a constant period of time our brain rewires itself as well so  we are able to repeat the  practice over and over again and continually get better 

or if its a negative  we can continually decline our mental health much like when you look at drug addiction or depression something has  caused the brain to be rewired  and conditioned to believe thats how life is.

Our behaviours can be changed our negative practices can be changed but it takes a few things

  1. Motivation
  2. Awareness 
  3. The want to change and
  4. Patience

Like most things it won’t happen over night, week or month it may take many months or years of practice to rewire your way of thinking everything has its correlation.

As I believe everything in life has a root cause especially human behaviours, you need to be aware that we all weren’t born bad nor drug addicts nor were we born happy and positive it all started somewhere which became hardwired into our brains.

Peace love light


Act without discrimination

 Ever noticed how the rain and sun both act without discrimination at anytime they don’t pick and chose when they shine or pour they just do

We as human beings can be exactly like that act without discrimination with love and compassion towards our fellow human beings its something we are all capable of within our DNA


Constant and concious effort

How do we truly attain the goals we set out to want to achieve I’ve learned and still learning it only comes through both concious and constant effort without them  any goal you want to achieve may not be as attainable as you expect


  • You need to know why you want to achieve this goal 
  • You need to be aware that life will no doubt play its part on the path towards it
  • You  need to ask yourself will it make me happy
  • You need to be aware failure is a part of the path 
  • You need to be aware that the path may be long 
  • You need to assert realistic goals and expectations on the path to these goals 
  • Reassess your strategy if something isn’t working
  • Don’t fear going two steps back in order to go a half step forward a step is a step


  • Put in the effort focus on the quality not quantity
  • If you find something that works stick with it as it adds to the constancy of consistency
  • Even if you can’t give %110 give the best you got anyways as it all adds up on that path
  • Don’t beat yourself up on the bad days know that your still putting it in

People often fear their goals as they look at it in super size views and instantly become intimidated by it, the way I’ve learned is to break the goal down into smaller goals micro goals so to speak and focus your energy on each of those micro goals creating a path behind you towards your goal.