A scary moment

Life has presented me and will present you with many a fearful scary moment we quite often unless we have experienced them don’t know how to handle them and manoeuvre emotionally through them.

One of the most scariest moments of my life was back in 2013, when I knew my marriage was on the verge of break up it hadn’t worked out for months we fought and argued as much as we tried to keep it together we inevitably split up, what created the most fear in me was the future of the unknown, being a single parent, how would I manage, what’s going to happen how am I going to cope financially I just had all these fears of the unknown closing in on me.

I had a lot of emotions going through me that of frustration, anger, depression, sadness and many more, some were indirectly aimed at the break up and some were just generated because of my clouded emotional state which lead to me break outs of yelling down the phone, ranting text messages and tears as well.

Now that I look back on it I find it intriguing how much fear can control us even in the positive light it can drive us to explore and grow  living fearlessly and in the negative light adversely control our emotions on every level leading to clouded judgement.

If your ever faced with a fearful situation treat it as a platform of growth and maturity though you will have heightened emotions become aware and work through them even the smallest plants grow in the heaviest storms or they fly with the wind.
Peace love light

Andy.p

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Happiness is not about doing its about being

Found this little blurb written by one of the modern era’s most successful businessman

If you spend 5 minutes of your day reading this, it will be the best 5 minutes of your day. 

Inspiring and powerful words…..and then on gift and tag a friend that could benefit 🙏
“Dear Stranger,
You don’t know me but I hear you are going through a tough time, and I would like to help you. I want to be open and honest with you, and let you know that happiness isn’t something just afforded to a special few. It can be yours, if you take the time to let it grow.
It’s OK to be stressed, scared and sad, I certainly have been throughout my 66 years. I’ve confronted my biggest fears time and time again. I’ve cheated death on many adventures, seen loved ones pass away, failed in business, minced my words in front of tough audiences, and had my heart broken.
I know I’m fortunate to live an extraordinary life, and that most people would assume my business success, and the wealth that comes with it, have brought me happiness. But they haven’t; in fact it’s the reverse. I am successful, wealthy and connected because I am happy.
So many people get caught up in doing what they think will make them happy but, in my opinion, this is where they fail. Happiness is not about doing, it’s about being. In order to be happy, you need to think consciously about it. Don’t forget the to-do list, but remember to write a to-be list too.
Kids are often asked: ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’ The world expects grandiose aspirations: ‘I want to be a writer, a doctor, the prime minister.’ They’re told: go to school, go to college, get a job, get married, and then you’ll be happy. But that’s all about doing, not being – and while doing will bring you moments of joy, it won’t necessarily reward you with lasting happiness.
Stop and breathe. Be healthy. Be around your friends and family. Be there for someone, and let someone be there for you. Be bold. Just be for a minute.
If you allow yourself to be in the moment, and appreciate the moment, happiness will follow. I speak from experience. We’ve built a business empire, joined conversations about the future of our planet, attended many memorable parties and met many unforgettable people. And while these things have brought me great joy, it’s the moments that I stopped just to be, rather than do, that have given me true happiness. Why? Because allowing yourself just to be, puts things into perspective. Try it. Be still. Be present.
For me, it’s watching the flamingos fly across Necker Island at dusk. It’s holding my new grandchild’s tiny hands. It’s looking up at the stars and dreaming of seeing them up close one day. It’s listening to my family’s dinner-time debates. It’s the smile on a stranger’s face, the smell of rain, the ripple of a wave, the wind across the sand. It’s the first snow fall of winter, and the last storm of summer. It’s sunrise and sunset.  
There’s a reason we’re called human beings and not human doings. As human beings we have the ability to think, move and communicate in a heightened way. We can cooperate, understand, reconcile and love, that’s what sets us apart from most other species.
Don’t waste your human talents by stressing about nominal things, or that which you cannot change. If you take the time simply to be and appreciate the fruits of life, your stresses will begin to dissolve, and you will be happier.
But don’t just seek happiness when you’re down. Happiness shouldn’t be a goal, it should be a habit. Take the focus off doing, and start being every day. Be loving, be grateful, be helpful, and be a spectator to your own thoughts.
Allow yourself to be in the moment, and appreciate the moment. Take the focus off everything you think you need to do, and start being – I promise you, happiness will follow.
Happy regards,
Richard Branson

Positive self talk

That old saying “talking to yourself is the first sign of madness” well that maybe in the past so to speak or not, it can be the a sign of success and confidence in your abilities to.

I have covered negative self talk previously this blog won’t probably be as long but will cover it through my personal experiences and beliefs.

Just as much as we fall into the spiral of negative self talk we can climb back into the light of positive self talk through the same methods that took us the other way, though it seems much more easier to manifest negative than positive action and we are always in denial of the positive and affirmative of the negative.

How do we engage in positive talk through self connection self belief and the ability to change our perspective on life and how we approach things, we can talk ourselves into it as easy as we can out of it the choice is upto you and yes sometimes it takes a person to shine a little light on us give us some validation which can ignite a little spark within us.

It’s a slow process but you have to start accepting the little things in life the incremental positives so to speak, like making it to the end of a tough day or week or simply surviving and reminding yourself “hey I survived” those little reminders can build you up slowly, take praise where its given and believe in it.

Write down the positives be it you’ve raised 2 kids, withstood bullying or kept going even when knocked down time after time when you put these into self talk more and more even those tough days become a breeze, because you’ve trained your mind to see you differently to believe in you more, its a constant and repetitive cycle but its the constant effort that wins the day.

We’re much like a plant in a garden we grow even on the harshest days be it.

Exercise loving kindness to you and your soul.

IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU
Peace love light

Andy. P

Negative Self talk 

Its that old saying “talking to yourself is the first sign of madness” that may be so in the past so to speak.

Theres two types of self talk I’m learning and I will cover them below.

NEGATIVE SELF TALK

This is the kind of self talk that can send us on a major downward spiral, resulting in massive mental health issues or behavioural issues which can diminish our self belief, esteem and confidence, we’ve all dabbled in it believe it or not no one can honestly say they haven’t some of us just don’t let it consume us we rather let it drive us through to beating our demons.

I too myself have been in negative self talk zone sometimes for months sometimes days or weeks or even a couple of hours, the effects of It really clouded my judgement, emotions and basically denying me of any logical or realistic thinking and in effects kept me in the dark and out of the small progressive light.

It all takes part with the chemicals in our brain our mindset is more than just a physical state of mind I believe and it all derives from the chemicals and neurons that transmit signals around our brain and body, so when you begin to negative self talk a different picture begins to be painted your emotions slowly start to change a negative mindset takes place and  it may only take a incremental event for this to start the rolling ball much like your pain threshold is carried through out your body by similar means of transmission hence pain killers block those signals and give you that so called pain relief.

Its causes may also stem from traumatic events in the early years of our life especially our childhood even down to a lack of affection we can often devalue ourselves as a result in the early on set.

How do we break the negative talk cycle and the downward spiral? From my personal experience you have to start looking Deep within yourself reconnect with you and ask yourself the tough questions, for me it was a matter of finding self belief and constantly telling myself little positive things to get the ball rolling in the opposite direction once that started happening the darkness turned to light slowly, not saying this will work for everyone we all have to find a way to manage the method to the madness of negative self talk and bring ourselves back into the light.

Just remember this 

The day you were born was the day you were accepted and approved in this world and if your going to approve of yourself do so in your imperfect state.
Peace love light

Andy.p

Is life infinite??

http://www.sciencepunch.com/scientists-found-soul-doesnt-die-goes-back-universe/the soul and its journey

Quite often we fear death we forget that we indeed have a soul and a spirit the one thing I have truly learned is that the human body is merely a vessel carrying the soul on a journey.

Reincarnation is in my eyes believable as is past lives lived in any form animal or human, there is no limitation on how long the soul lives as there is no physical state to it unlike the human body, our soul may have lived a thousand years before it found our body to continue its journey.

Just remember next time you question your past life and your current life their most likely a reflection of your souls previous journey as well.

So be kind to yourself be kind to your soul and the vessel your body.

Peace love light 

Andy.p

My sufferings

I have lived a life of suffering 

Through my anxiety and depression, where I was either living in the past or projecting into the future.

I was the cause of my own negative sufferings stunting my emotional growth, creating my own pain, playing the victim and being unknind to me.

I now am chosing to suffer in the affirmative in a way that helps me grow and not a way that kills me from the inside, I chose to step out of my comfort zone to let go of my bad habits embrace my imperfections rather than reject them.

I chose to suffer for the benefit of nurturing a relationship with myself and a deep connection with the awakened world as I see it.

I no longer wish to live in the past or future I chose  to live presently, I am accepting my emotions and living through them but not with them I am letting go of the shackles that once hurt me.

I will listen to the voice of my heart and the wisdom of my mind to replace the voice of emotions.

I will forgive myself as I shall learn to forgive others.

I shall live uncomfortably in order to find me and this will be my destination.

Peace love light blessings ☮❤🌟🕉

Andy.p

Approval addiction and me 

I don’t know about any of you in here but I lived a life once where I felt I needed the approval of others I said yes to everything feared speaking the truth feared being me,  because I just wanted to feel accepted and would do anything to attain that acceptance from a Crowd or work colleagues as I’ve found it approval addiction is real and it has its root causes I’m now on a path  that hasn’t been comfortable but I am progressing and finding the true me the real voice the real Andrew don’t think you have to compromise to fit in don’t think you need to seek the approval of others only to merely exist when it suits them.
Peace love light

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