How often do you get down, emotional, anxious, depressed and so on?
You often try to force your way out of the situation with distraction or similar?
I think anyone with a mental health issue has often tried to do that forcing ourselves to be happy or calm when we were are anxious ridden or depressed.
Its fine for our mental health to visit us especially the dark sides of it as without dark we have no light.
MAKING YOUR MENTAL HEALTH A BEST FRIEND
Ask yourself when a best friend visits do you force them out the door or walk away from them? Ignore them? Probably not as your a social being, so you greet them in whatever way you do and spend time with them giving them all your attention for the time your with them?
Why not try that with your mental health issues when they arise, like if your anxiety arises give it a name be it male or female or something that makes you laugh, spend time with it, hang out with it give it attention it deserves much like your human best friend and then part ways with it until another day.
We have to treat our mental health with love and compassion the more we neglect it the more it arises.
Just sitting here reflecting and its amazing how far I have come in a year a year ago I was
- Chasing empty relationships
- Fearing loneliness
- Negatively thinking
- Trying to connect with others rather than myself.
- Living in the past and future
- Blaming others for my behavior
A year later I am
- Seeing life in a different way
- Discovering myself and my purpose
- Understanding another’s pain
- Enjoying my own company
- Not fearing loneliness but rather embracing it as a sign of the universe
- Living presently
- Taking more ownership for my actions, feelings and emotions.
- More patient
I believe I haven’t changed or improved just evolved past the behaviors I was once conditioned with, I feel I am more mindful of my feelings, I have unlocked and resurfaced old suppressed behaviors and learning to grow through them and take ownership.
We can grow theres no limitation to how much our mind can grow, we can build and rewire new and old connections, unlock parts of our brain that lay dormant since birth, it takes a click a want and patience.
I recently read a post that has just activated something so deep in me that I felt the need to share as I never shared it with anyone not even my psychologist
I’ve been on a journey with depression and anxiety and around mid last year I took a short trip out of town to visit a new friend.
Things went a little south and I didn’t have my comfort to retreat to the gym or work to help me get through this, I was reaching out to friends via social media, but wasn’t being completely honest about my thoughts aside the fact I was going through a dark patch.
Within this dark patch a long way from home I was contemplating suicide I knew and saw a bridge in town and kept thinking how easy it would’ve been just to end this darkness and jump off it.
It felt like a lonely place I was in and no matter what I did, I just wanted to cry or end the darkness I was in as I couldn’t see light and all I kept thinking about was perhaps jumping off that bridge would end it all.
I’m glad that day I had a resilient part of me activated even though I was dominated by utter darkness and to the friend on social media who listened to me I would like to thank you even though I cannot remember who you are, but your chatter kept me from doing something I was believing I should’ve done.
Your not alone in this world
The world maybe dark but know there will be light
Contemplation of suicide is a strong feeling and is often where it all begins to end or ends to begin
DON’T FEEL YOU CAN’T TALK ABOUT IT
Self improvement is a myth
You don’t need improving
You are beautiful and strong as you are
You will grow and evolve but at no time will you need to be improved nothing can replace you the soul you are
Your soul is pure and infinite
I cannot preach this enough as its so integral to rebuilding our mental health when we first realise we have a problem, everyone fears the medication.
- Learn about your medication like I did so you know what it does
- don’t stress about the side effects as only one or two may happen
- Know that if it doesnt work for you that your GP can help find a suitable one
- Know that the medication helps restore the chemical imbalances in our brain thats contributing to our mental health state.
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY
Stop worrying about what everyone is going to think stop worrying about what your family is going to think
Its not about them its about you doing what is right for you and your son
And if they don’t understand thats fine noone does who hasn’t experienced it
Stop putting shame on yourself for having mental health issues and coming forward to fix it the only person that is going to think your crazy is you as thats the thought and belief you ultimately create in your head noone else not your family not your friends not me just you.
You have full ownership of your thoughts and beliefs having depression and anxiety isn’t going crazy, its called having a life experience which has changed the way our brain works and what the medication does is help play an integral part in reorganising that.
So stop worrying about what anyone else is going to say.
I was talking to a friend about her emotions when I came up with this acronym for helping her to work though them
I called it FALL and i believe it relates to the way we could handle our emotions as most the time they are passing visitor’s who eventually return at some time in our life.
The most simplest way to look at lonely is like sugar and liquid
Trust that your never alone
Just feel it but never are